A coffee chat is a short, informal conversation with someone whose job, company or career path interests you. It isn’t a job interview, and it isn’t a favor you repay later. Good coffee chat questions make it feel like a real conversation, which is exactly why people agree to a second one. Below you’ll find questions for every stage of the chat, plus what to skip and how to follow up.
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Before the chat: 15 minutes of preparation
A little homework shows respect, and it also leads to better answers. Before you meet:
- Read their profile and recent work, such as posts, talks or projects.
- Look up the role itself. In the US, the Bureau of Labor Statistics’ Occupational Outlook Handbook explains what hundreds of jobs involve. In the UK, Prospects job profiles do the same.
- Pick five or six questions from the lists below, and put them in order.
- Prepare a two-sentence intro about who you are and why you asked to meet.
- Confirm the length and time zone. Twenty to thirty minutes is normal. If you’re in Mexico City and they’re in Madrid, offer times that suit their morning.
Coffee chat questions to open the conversation
Start light, so the other person can settle in:
- What does a normal week look like for you right now?
- Which project are you most excited about at the moment?
- How did you end up in this role?
These openers get people talking about themselves, which most people enjoy. They also give you details to come back to later in the chat.
Questions about their career path
Next, learn how they made their choices, since that’s often more useful than what they chose:
- What made you pick this field over the other options you had?
- Which career decision would you make again without hesitation?
- What turned out to be harder than you expected?
- If you were starting again today, what would you do differently?
Listen for patterns rather than rules. Their path won’t be yours, but their reasoning can still guide you.
Questions about the industry and the company
Then widen the lens to the field and the workplace:
- What’s changing in your industry that outsiders tend to miss?
- What separates the people who do well on your team from the rest?
- How does your company decide who gets promoted?
- Which skills do you think will matter more in five years?
Question 10 is useful for anyone weighing a job offer. Even so, keep it general rather than asking about specific colleagues.
Coffee chat questions with senior leaders
Senior leaders get many requests, so make your questions count. Strategic questions also tend to land well:
- What’s the biggest challenge your team faces this year?
- How do you spot potential in someone early in their career?
- When you hire, what stands out to you that candidates don’t expect?
- What do you wish more people asked you?
Keep these coffee chat questions short and stick to time. Leaders are more likely to agree to a second chat when the first one ends on time.
Coffee chat questions with colleagues
Coffee chats aren’t only for strangers. In fact, a chat with someone from another team can teach you how your own company really works:
- What does your team need from mine that we don’t always deliver?
- Which tools or habits help your team work well together?
- What’s the most useful thing you’ve learned since joining?
- Which teams should I understand better to do my job well?
Because you share an employer, you can also offer help in return, such as data your team owns or an introduction to someone in your department.
Coffee chat questions as an intern or student
If you’re early in your career, it’s fine to be curious about the basics:
- Which skills should I focus on in my first year?
- What kind of projects helped you get noticed when you started?
- How did you find your first role in this field?
- Who else would you suggest I talk to?
Question 23 is the most valuable one on this list. A single name from the right person can lead to your next three conversations.
Coffee chat questions to skip
Some questions make the other person uncomfortable or waste the time you have:
- “Can you get me a job?” Instead, ask “What would make a candidate stand out on your team?”
- Anything their profile already answers, such as where they studied.
- Exact salary questions, especially early on. If pay matters, ask about typical ranges for the role instead.
How to end the chat and follow up
Watch the time, and wrap up a minute or two early. However, if they’re clearly enjoying it, let them decide when to stop. Then thank them, and ask whether there’s anyone else they’d suggest you speak to.
Within 24 hours, send a short thank-you note. Mention one specific thing they said and what you’ll do with it. For example: “Thanks for the tip about the analytics course. I’ve signed up and will let you know how it goes.” Later, when you’ve acted on their advice, send a short update. That small loop turns a one-off chat into a relationship.
For more ideas on what these conversations can lead to, see our professional networking examples. And if you’ve just moved, our guide to building a professional network in a new city shows where coffee chats fit in.
Frequently asked questions
How long should a coffee chat last?
Twenty to thirty minutes is typical. If it’s a video call, fifteen to twenty minutes is often enough for a first conversation.
How do you ask someone for a coffee chat?
Send a short message that says who you are, why you’re interested in their work, and that you’d like 20 minutes of their time. Then offer a few time slots, and make it easy to say no.
Who pays for the coffee?
Usually the person who asked for the chat offers to pay. If they insist on paying, thank them warmly and offer to return the favor next time.
What coffee chat questions should you avoid?
Avoid asking for a job directly, asking things their profile already answers, and asking for exact salary details early on.
Ask good questions, then keep in touch
The right coffee chat questions turn a polite half hour into a contact who remembers you. Prepare a few, listen closely, and follow up within a day. If you’re looking for people who’d welcome that kind of chat, get Kradoz on Google Play. You might also like our guide to where to find a mentor for free, since a good coffee chat is often how mentoring starts. When it does, our list of questions to ask a mentor will help you keep it going.
